Thanks for your question.
Herpes simplex virus (HSV) is one of the most common viruses infecting humans. Symptoms can range from none to mild to severe. Although there is no cure for herpes infection, it can be managed with the right medication and self-care measures.
Both HSV types (HSV 1 and HSV 2) cause sores either around the mouth or the genitals. Herpes can be spread even when there are no visible ulcers or blisters. The likelihood of passing herpes to a partner is highest during an outbreak. From what you have described looks like you have tried some precautions, you may also want to consider:
- discussing with your partner about seeking herpes medications every day, this can prevent further transmission
- avoiding sexual activity, kissing or sharing things like straws or smokes during an outbreak
- avoiding oral sex when they have facial or genital sores
- using condoms and lube even when sores are not present (in between outbreaks)
- using a condom or sex dam for oral sex on a penis, vagina or anus (in between outbreaks)
Your health care provider can give your more information about herpes and help you to continue a healthy and sexually fulfilling relationship. Here is a wonderful resource about safer sex and herpes.
Hope this information was helpful to you.